I broke my wife’s trust the first week we were married. Even though I had the best intentions of being a good man and husband, I was still pretty immature, impulsive, and clueless. Within days of being married, I had already hurt my brand-new bride. Even though I thought I understood what it meant to love someone else, I had no idea how to help her heal from the damage I had caused. My intentions were good, but I didn’t have a clue how to win back her trust.
I struggled for years trying to be a good husband by doing the things I thought good husbands did. I really thought I knew what I was doing. I mean, I was even a marriage counselor helping other couples! I had the best intentions and worked my butt off trying to show my wife I was a good guy. Even though things seemed “okay” most of the time, I still could tell that I didn’t fully have my wife’s confidence and trust.
Good intentions weren’t enough.
I remember calling an older and wiser friend and asking for his help with my struggling marriage.
He listened as I went on and on about me and all of my efforts. Then, he stopped me in my tracks and helped me see that I was the one getting in my own way.
Not only was I in my own way, but my self-centered efforts kept us both from healing.
My commitment to win back my wife’s trust and be the husband I always wanted to be finally started coming together once I saw how to get out of the way and really care about her and her pain.
Sure, I could talk for hours about healthy marriages as a therapist, but until I learned how to really connect to her experience and become a safe person for her, none of that information made one difference.
I will teach you everything I've learned about rebuilding trust from my 20+ years of personal and professional failures and successes.
"When I think of a therapist with a high level of integrity, talent, compassion, and excellence Geoff Steurer is always at the top of my list! Geoff brings his heart, empathetic experience, and incredible wisdom to every aspect of his work - with his clinical clients, and with every service and healing resource he provides. When Geoff shared that his on line "Trust Building Bootcamp" program was available, as a fellow clinician I did a happy dance because he is such a trusted counselor in our field and we have long needed a program like this. Suffice to say, I will be referring many clients to his bootcamp program, and I am so happy that we have this important and supportive resource in the world to help men and couples grow and heal. Well done Geoff!"
Mari A. Lee, LMFT, CSAT-S, CPTT-S, MBAT-S, Author of, "Facing Heartbreak" and "Healing Betrayal", www.TheCounselorsCoach.com
“Geoff Steurer is a leading expert in the field of betrayal trauma, with extensive experience helping couples restore their relationships. A respected author, speaker, and therapist, Geoff has walked with countless couples through their recovery process. Geoff understands what factors destroy trust and what must be done to rebuild it. For anyone who has wounded others by their destructive choices, feeling lost with where to go next, Geoff is the experienced guide I highly recommend. Geoff knows the way into the light of a new life.”
-Forest Benedict, LMFT, SATP, Author of Life After Lust, www.ForestBenedict.com